In our modern culture we are consumed with efficiency, flash, mass appeal and political correctness. It seems that the idea of loving well is a lost art. It has become a thing of the past and something to read about in poetry books or see in a Hollywood blockbuster. The movies leave us with a gnawing sense of discontent with our relationships and ourselves because we can never live up to the unrealistic and highly romanticized ideal that we can create and sustain love.
Growing up in a highly dysfunctional home, I had no idea what loving well was or that the concept even existed. Life was about survival. When I was 16 I had the great privilege of being rescued by an amazing family. They took me in as one of their own. They taught me many things, but the most important thing I learned was to love well. 25 years later this family is still a crucial part of my life. 3,000 miles separate us but only one heartbeat stands between us. They helped me discover that it is possible to love and be loved in a way that Hollywood couldn’t write if they had all the best screen writers working overtime. There is a love so great and powerful that hell could not contain it. This love I speak of is the love of Christ. When we surrender ourselves to this love that redeems, restores, renews and even romances us – we are capable of loving others well. Apart from the love of Christ, we are seekers who search in vain for the one thing our heart yearns for…to love and be loved. The funny thing is that this love is so simple, that it is profound. We’ve all heard the verse about love. Often times it feels more like we are getting called out on the carpet for our unloving attitude. My intent here is to draw your attention to the fact that you are loved well by the one who created you, so in turn we can love deeply, unselfishly without reservation or pride. Here is my take on the famous love verse of the bible.
Love thinks the best of the other person. Love puts another’s needs before our own. Love forgives when we are hurt. Love does the dishes when we are tired. Love asks how was your day when what you really want to do is unload about your own hard day. Love does not rub someone’s nose in his or her mistakes. Love endures even when things are hard. Love is a choice. Love goes the extra mile. Love, because God loves you first and God loves you best. Love.