Who’s Your Daddy?

It probably goes with out saying that no one is perfect.

This goes for dads too.

Maybe you had a Leave it to Beaver kind of Dad…

Or maybe you had a screaming, yelling, scheming dad…

Or maybe your dad was a real monster

Some of us were fortunate enough to grow up with the love and support of a dad who was a positive presence in our lives.

Some of us were not.

Maybe you grew up with an absent father, an abusive father, a distant father, a dad who worked too much and whom you could never please.

If you are like me, your experience and relationship with your dad may have had an impact on the way you interact with and experience God the father.

When I first came to know and follow God it didn’t seem to have any impact in my growth or experience.

However the longer I followed the Lord, the more obvious my father issues became.

I was keeping God at arms length not trusting Him because my father had been unworthy of my trust.

I projected my negative feelings and experiences with my earthly dad onto my Heavenly Father.

Needless to say, this stunted my growth and diminished my relationship with God.

I know I have shared some of this experience in previous posts here on the couch, but I wanted to take the opportunity on Fathers Day weekend to remind you of who God is and the depth of His love for you.

So if you find yourself wrestling with your view of God as Father, take a few minutes and let His word speak to you about His love for you and His desire to have a relationship with you and then ask yourself…

Who do you want to be in eternal relationship with…

The God who loves, forgives, redeems and restores?
The one who hurt, disappointed or abandoned you?

So…Who’s YOUR Daddy?

For I am sure that neither death nor life, nor angels nor rulers, nor things present nor things to come, nor powers, nor height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God in Christ Jesus our Lord.
Romans 8:38-39

See what kind of love the Father has given to us, that we should be called children of God; and so we are. The reason why the world does not know us is that it did not know him.
1 John 3:1

Yet to all who received him, to those who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God John 1:12

I am the vine; you are the branches. If a man remains in me and I in him, he will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing John 15:5

Grace & Peace ~ Karen


7 thoughts on “Who’s Your Daddy?

  1. Sharon says:

    Karen – your writing is amazing. I was very blessed to grow up with a loving, supportive and active dad – our opinions nad feelings always mattered. After reading this I realize it was key in how easy it was to form (and continue to build) a strong relationship with God. Thank you for the wisdom.

    • KAREN COOK says:

      Thank you Sharon…it does my heart good when I  hear that people associate a close relationship with the Lord as a result of a strong &positive relationship with their dads. I think this is especially important for women. I hope you get to celebrate with your dad on Sunday & let him know the impact he had on you! 

  2. Barbie says:

    Thank you for this post.  I did not have a very close relationship with my alcoholic father growing up. We are much closer now, but I’ve struggled for many years with Father heart issues.  I have come so far, but still at times see God as distant.  

    • KAREN COOK says:

      thanks for stopping by Barbie. It was great to meet you face to face at the book signing. I too had an alcoholic father – it is amazing how dysfunction gets projected. I pray that as you pursue God the Father – you will find He is running toward you not away. 

    • Beth says:

      BUT… I’m so thankful that I finally got to know my Heavenly Father!!!  Life has never been the same ~ Hallelujah!!

  3. Heathersfaith says:

    Thank you for this wonderful post, Karen.  When we come from a place of brokenness where our fathers are concerned, it’s hard for us to NOT project those hurts onto God.  It’s hard to imagine that we are worthy of the pure love that is God.  However, it’s not about us deserving; it’s not about us at all. He loves us with this pure, holy, and graceful love because of who HE is.  When I received God’s grace through Jesus for the first time, I cried for two days.  I couldn’t believe that He could love me so much.  It was like the  years of yearning for love and approval were finally washed away, leaving me in bliss! 

    You are an awesome writer!  Keep up the great work!!

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